Holiday time can have so many pressures and financial triggers associated with it. Just after Halloween, dollar stores, malls and all the places within them start putting up their Xmas decorations before we can even say “ho ho ho.” For me, it is an obvious push for us to get our “consumer” on. It’s a time to celebrate the North American version of Christianity’s Christmas, while pretty much ignoring every other celebration that happen in December.
At the same time, we are invited to holiday parties, asked to buy gifts we can’t afford and spend our time worrying about money and saving face on giving and receiving gifts (did I get the right one? Will they like it? Is it at the same level as the gift I was given?!). While I love to celebrate, period, holiday time in North America seems to be about consumerism and our (financial and social) ability to do it. It’s also about spending time with family members, whether we want to or not.
So I wrote a list of things (I love) to do. This is a list of things I will be doing all month to take care of myself in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, when I feel obligated to spend more money than I really have and spend time doing things I’d just rather not do! I invite you to create your own list of ways to take care of yourself during the holiday season (and of course for the winter months to come!).
Things to do to Take Care of Ourselves During the Holidays
AKA ♫ These are a few of my favourite things ♫
1. Create your own Celebration-By-Choice - Often this time of year means that we have to spend time with family, whether we like it or not. A celebration of your own creation can be great when everyone pitches in and shares the responsibilities of gathering food and drink. It can also be a great time to celebrate all the holiday-time religions and traditions your friends and you have, and discuss how you feel about them. And you can also make agreements on how to get gifts (or not) for each other.
2. Create a plan – When you are faced with your family asking about your vegetarianism or who you are dating, have something ready to say back to them. It may feel better than thinking of something on the spot.
3. Saying no – When it just doesn’t work, or you are just feeling down, put up your boundaries and say no. You don’t have to go to that party and you can cry if you want to. (more inside…)