Today’s guest blog comes to us from Ben Privot of the Consensual Project.
The Consensual Project partners with schools and universities to bring students a fresh understanding of consent. The innovative curriculum, workshops, and website empower young people to incorporate consent into their daily lives. The Consensual Project is committed to helping students connect through consent.
Hi Shameless readers!
It’s an honor to get to share with you today.
Please let me be clear: I LOVE Shameless magazine’s shameless mantra. At the end of the day, I think shame can hold us back from exploring the lessons feminism has for us. For example, lessons around sexuality. More precisely, lessons of consent. Adages like “no means no” or “yes means yes” have been an extremely valuable start, but we need to explore more of consent, without shame, because the current status of our sexual climate still needs some serious repair. As you may be well aware, rape culture is extremely prevalent and it is willing to use misogyny, cissexism, heterosexism, and all other forms of oppression to inflict sexual violence on everyone’s bodies, particularly non-hetero cisgendered men’s bodies. Keeping rape culture alive and intact are a bunch of myths; they’re harmful and ridiculous. I know that a lot my amazing feminist friends understand rape culture but still are afflicted by one of its greatest impacts: withholding what the language of consent looks like.
While in college I explored consent, I mean really explored it: I talked about it with my hookups, partners, friends, and even professors. The more I learned about consent the more I found my relationships becoming more accountable, safer, and trusting. But they were also becoming a whole lot more intimate (I’ll spare you the details!). This speaks to the true nature of consent; it resolves to bring us both safety and pleasure! So I’d like to tear down some of the myths rape culture builds while simultaneously exploring consent. By doing so, I think we’ll be that much more able to have one uh-mazing good time, safely and mutually.