To end this piece, I want to provide an excerpt from Mia McKenzie's blogpost “10 Things Us Queers (And the Rest of Y'all) Can Do Today to Grow A Little” from the blog Black Girl Dangerous:

"Create a boundary/respect a boundary. Creating boundaries is one way to let people know what you need. Respecting other people’s boundaries is one way to meet another person’s needs. The two go hand in hand. If you’re dynamite about setting boundaries and lax about respecting the boundaries of others, or vice versa, something’s off. I will admit that I have never been terrific at either of these things. But I’m much better than I used to be, and I’m working hard on both. What I’m working hardest on is understanding for myself the boundaries I’m setting and why I am setting them, where those needs are coming from, if they are real or just a way of controlling relationships and having the upper hand. If I’m just trying to get my way, without any regard for the needs of the people I claim to care about, that’s not real boundary-setting."

The Black Girl Dangerous blog includes a lot of posts and different strategies about ways we can grow and nurture ourselves.

These are a few of the many ways that we can treat ourselves in the manner that we deserve, with a lot of respect, love and kindness. I encourage us all to find new delicious opportunities to spoil ourselves sweetly.